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(This is not a rant, just an observation) :)
Over the past couple of months, I've been made aware of two opposing thoughts from other people about me:
1. I've changed. I'm not as "in your face" as I used to be. I don't use the eff word unless it's absolutely warranted. I'm still outspoken, still opinionated, still write what I think. But my mood has been softened by an anti-depressant that I started back in 2009 when I moved to the east coast and received Medicaid. Some have told me they've noticed a difference for the better. That's ... nice to know. ::makes funny face:: Not sure if I should be flattered or offended. :-p
2. No one's bothered to notice the change and still tell others to avoid me. *sighs* How in the world am I supposed to get back into fandom with that kind of attitude? I dunno. Lies are told, too, though I doubt they're on purpose. I've flamed people, but from my own seat and not gone on other people's journals to do it. OTOH, there are some who can't tell the difference between a flame and an opinion. Ah well.
Anyways, I thought I'd mention this in case any one out there was worried about talking to me or being seen talking to me. Yeah, all kinds of peoples are out there. ;)
So I'll end with this, and with a pleasant smile: I am only responsible for what I say, not for what others understand. :)
Over the past couple of months, I've been made aware of two opposing thoughts from other people about me:
1. I've changed. I'm not as "in your face" as I used to be. I don't use the eff word unless it's absolutely warranted. I'm still outspoken, still opinionated, still write what I think. But my mood has been softened by an anti-depressant that I started back in 2009 when I moved to the east coast and received Medicaid. Some have told me they've noticed a difference for the better. That's ... nice to know. ::makes funny face:: Not sure if I should be flattered or offended. :-p
2. No one's bothered to notice the change and still tell others to avoid me. *sighs* How in the world am I supposed to get back into fandom with that kind of attitude? I dunno. Lies are told, too, though I doubt they're on purpose. I've flamed people, but from my own seat and not gone on other people's journals to do it. OTOH, there are some who can't tell the difference between a flame and an opinion. Ah well.
Anyways, I thought I'd mention this in case any one out there was worried about talking to me or being seen talking to me. Yeah, all kinds of peoples are out there. ;)
So I'll end with this, and with a pleasant smile: I am only responsible for what I say, not for what others understand. :)
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Date: 2013-08-02 02:21 pm (UTC)From:I do know you now though and I agree you are outspoken and opinionated, but aren't we all? In my opinion, it takes guts to do it in public. Others, myself included, will criticize privately.
So, anyone who comes under the second category should just give you a chance. Maybe you did piss them off, I don't know, but I ALWAYS believe people deserve a second chance.
That's my personal opinion.
Chris xx
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Date: 2013-08-02 02:22 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2013-08-02 05:42 pm (UTC)From:LJ and DW are much quieter places now so interactions I think are less and I'm the first to admit my emailing and contact is pants some weeks...ups and downs in life hit us all....not everyone is going to like us and the longer we hang around in fandom I think the more we know it...I certainly do...I'm not as well liked by some of the newer factions because I'm outspoken on fan behaviour, but that's their loss not mine......I count the amount of years I've stayed in touch with true good friends as important..
Love ya hon...always have, always will...
xoxoxoxox
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Date: 2013-08-03 12:52 am (UTC)From:Thanks, sweetie. You're a love, always will be. The only thing you do that drives me crazy is when you shut off comments on your entries. Can't show my support when you do that, ya crazy. ::hugs::
So, here's me being my typical self:
Ahem...
Most of the animosity people had/have toward me comes from being a member/moderator on the FDAS group on Yahoo. I was very, very outspoken there and I slammed certain fic plots (like rape) like a great white taking a seal. I will still do that, should the need arise.
But I think a good portion of the authors who got my badfic reviews spread angry revenge like a flu virus. Not my fault they wrote such bad shit. Makes me an asshole for reviewing it like a dreaded NY Times columnist, but hey, I did it for free and those people do it for money. Be it fic or published, it's in the public domain. Get over it. If you can't take the heat, get the hell out of the kitchen.
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Date: 2013-08-03 09:21 am (UTC)From:I use my journal as a diary and although I lock some of my posts to comments I do it mainly because I just want a rant to myself....but I know 10000% my true friends understand and love me and support me anyways...no words are needed....but I have made a filter for "fandom rants" which is open to a few close friends...some of those will remain unlocked for a good old bitch and moan if we want it!!...*snerk*..
As for those fic writers....well I don't write but I know that if you put yourself out in the public domain you have to learn to take criticism, harsh or otherwise....my daughter-in-law-to-be is a model and boy! does she have to take some harsh words in one of the worst industries for putting people down and destroying their confidence....but that's life....deal with it...I've read some dreadful shit but sadly some fic writers are bolstered up by sycophants who think that they will get something "more" from supporting someone....and when a true critique is made, they descend on one like a bunch of enraged harpies.....
Yeah, fuck 'em I say....if you got something to say, say it...:P
xoxoxoxoxo
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Date: 2013-08-03 05:18 pm (UTC)From:Orrymain comes to mind. I swear, all I have to do is read a few paragraphs of any fic of hers and I just ... get ... this ... urge ....
Jesus H.
I went over to Area 52, haven't been there for 3 years, and she's still writing. God.